Where To Meet Asian Women
Dec 15, 2013 2:17:03 GMT -8
Post by Greg on Dec 15, 2013 2:17:03 GMT -8
Here are some general tips on places and ways to meet Asian women. Being on the west coast of the US helps or being in a big city with lots of Asian immigrants like New York helps. How you approach Asian women once you find them is a different topic that I will cover in a separate post. Also there is a huge difference between Asian women born in Asia and Asian women born in America - again probably a different topic.
In no particular order, here are some decent places and ways to meet Asian women:
1. Introductions from Asian friends
Referrals from other trusted Asian friends go a really long way with many Asian women. Several of the black men that I know that are married to Asian women were introduced to their wife by other Asian friends. Don't have any Asian friends - then it's time to make some
2. Asian Grocery Stores / Markets
Food is a big deal in the Asian community and many times the only place Asian people can buy the ingredients or food they need is in a Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, or Filipino market. Most times people are helpful in these stores, but some are in a rush as well, so use your judgement when approaching women there.
3. Salsa Dance Venues
Salsa is generally full of mature adults of all ethnic backgrounds, particularly on the west coast and it offers the perfect excuse to approach a woman and spend some up close time with her for 5 to 7 minutes at a time. Most salsa places also offer a basic introductory salsa lesson before the general salsa dancing begins which operates very similar to speed dating event where you switch partners every minute or so. Once your salsa dance skills are more advanced, it's not unusual at all for Asian women to approach you for a dance since sometimes they like to improve their skills by dancing with the better dancers.
4. Zumba / Dance Classes in the Asian Section of Town
Many Asian women love dancing in general and Zumba in particular. If you find a Zumba studio in or near the Asian section of your city (particularly on the west coast), it will typically be full of Asian women and not that many men. Before or after class is a great time to talk and meet the Asian women in the class, but during the class you need to be all business about getting your Zumba in.
5. Gym
Pick your spot when approaching women here and try not to be too disruptive to her or others. It helps sometimes when you look like you might know what you are doing in a gym.
6. Coffee Shop
If you live in a place with a fair amount of Asians, this can be a decent place as well.
7. Classroom Language Courses and Online Language Exchange Sites
You will typically be surprised by how many interesting friends you can meet in these courses. Friends who can often help make introductions for you later. Many men meet Asian women through language exchange courses or internet sites. Be prepared however to meet women who do not speak English well and who will often have a long learning curve to speak proper English.
8. Sushi / Ramen Bars
While I don't like restaurants in general for meeting people, many sushi bars and ramen shops seem to attract a fair amount of single diners and gives you the perfect setup to strike up a conversation.
9. Large Diverse Churches
Some cities may not have these, but the west coast has many large churches which attract all ethnic groups and are hence very diverse. These churches typically have many different events, activities, and ministries - including a singles ministry often - which all give you a natural way to meet other people, some of whom will undoubtedly be Asian.
10. Nail Salon
Ever had a male manicure / pedicure - without the polish. Not only are most of the technicians Asian, but many of the clients and sometimes the salon owners will be Asian as well. On the west coast many of these salons will be owned by Vietnamese and / or have many Vietnamese workers. Sometimes better for making Asian friends, than finding dates.
11. Asian Events / Fairs / Night Markets
Does your city have an Asian Art or Film Festival or Night Market - great place to meet Asian women. Does your city have a Chinatown or Asian section with big Chinese New Year or Mid Autumn Festival events? Figure out what Asian holidays are celebrated in your area and try to attend some of the events. The night markets in particular are often a lot of fun and a nice way to meet Asian women.
12. West Coast or Hawaii Visit
If you don't already live on the west coast, plan a visit for a week and experience the difference of living in an area with a larger Asian population. Any of the larger west coast cities should work - San Diego, Irvine (Orange County), Los Angeles, San Jose, San Francisco, even Seattle or Vancouver. Also if you haven't been to Hawaii in a bit, Oahu and Honolulu/Waikiki feel like they are probably 80% Asian these days. Visitors from Japan far outnumber the visitors from the US these days in Hawaii. If you are not ready for the large Asian population in Hawaii, it can even be a little overwhelming for some guys.
13. Overseas Visit / Assignment
Nothing like going straight to the source. Is there a natural reason for you to visit Asia or can you attach yourself to a project at work which requires an Asian visit? Where to visit - for the first timer, Singapore, Tokyo, Seoul, or Hong Kong. For the more seasoned traveler, you can also try Kuala Lumpur, Shanghai, Beijing, Bangkok, Ho Chi Minh City, or Cebu.
14. General Online Dating
Try the free ones first, OKCupid.com or PlentyofFish.com and then maybe some of the paid ones like Match.com or eHamony.com. For me, I always meet more Asian women in person than online. My understanding is that the online Asian women really get hounded by the yellow fever fetish guys daily and hence they can be very weary sometimes. The same can happen in person as well, but likely with a little less intensity. My Asian friends tell me that most of the Asian women who use general online dating sites are either not that attractive or have difficult personalities. My Asian friends tell me that most of the attractive and fun personality Asian women in the US do not ever need to go on a general online dating site to meet men, so word to the wise about online dating.
15. Asian Online Dating
Websites like ChineseLoveLinks, KoreanCupid, and JapanCupid tend to specialize in Asian women who live in Asia, but who are open to relocating to the US or Europe. You have to be careful of the green card seekers and the gold diggers on these sites, but there are many genuine women on these sites if you can navigate the whole international relationship aspect. The real gems though on these websites are the women of Asian descent who already live in the US or Europe. They already understand western culture to some degree and likely already have good to fluent English skills. Also unlike the general online dating sites, these Asian specific web sites are more likely to have very attractive Asian women with great personalities, but perhaps weaker English skills.
16. Asian Matchmaker
Some large cities like San Francisco have matchmakers who specialize in Asian relationships. YourAsianConnection.com in San Francisco says that 70% of their matchmaking is matching American guys (including Black guys) to Asian women and 30% of their business is matching Asian men to Asian women. While I have never used their service, I hear good things about them including reasonable pricing and lots of speed dating events and other fun ice breaker events. I'm sure there are other Asian Matchmakers as well.
What other places / ways have you found effective for meeting Asian women?
In no particular order, here are some decent places and ways to meet Asian women:
1. Introductions from Asian friends
Referrals from other trusted Asian friends go a really long way with many Asian women. Several of the black men that I know that are married to Asian women were introduced to their wife by other Asian friends. Don't have any Asian friends - then it's time to make some
2. Asian Grocery Stores / Markets
Food is a big deal in the Asian community and many times the only place Asian people can buy the ingredients or food they need is in a Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, or Filipino market. Most times people are helpful in these stores, but some are in a rush as well, so use your judgement when approaching women there.
3. Salsa Dance Venues
Salsa is generally full of mature adults of all ethnic backgrounds, particularly on the west coast and it offers the perfect excuse to approach a woman and spend some up close time with her for 5 to 7 minutes at a time. Most salsa places also offer a basic introductory salsa lesson before the general salsa dancing begins which operates very similar to speed dating event where you switch partners every minute or so. Once your salsa dance skills are more advanced, it's not unusual at all for Asian women to approach you for a dance since sometimes they like to improve their skills by dancing with the better dancers.
4. Zumba / Dance Classes in the Asian Section of Town
Many Asian women love dancing in general and Zumba in particular. If you find a Zumba studio in or near the Asian section of your city (particularly on the west coast), it will typically be full of Asian women and not that many men. Before or after class is a great time to talk and meet the Asian women in the class, but during the class you need to be all business about getting your Zumba in.
5. Gym
Pick your spot when approaching women here and try not to be too disruptive to her or others. It helps sometimes when you look like you might know what you are doing in a gym.
6. Coffee Shop
If you live in a place with a fair amount of Asians, this can be a decent place as well.
7. Classroom Language Courses and Online Language Exchange Sites
You will typically be surprised by how many interesting friends you can meet in these courses. Friends who can often help make introductions for you later. Many men meet Asian women through language exchange courses or internet sites. Be prepared however to meet women who do not speak English well and who will often have a long learning curve to speak proper English.
8. Sushi / Ramen Bars
While I don't like restaurants in general for meeting people, many sushi bars and ramen shops seem to attract a fair amount of single diners and gives you the perfect setup to strike up a conversation.
9. Large Diverse Churches
Some cities may not have these, but the west coast has many large churches which attract all ethnic groups and are hence very diverse. These churches typically have many different events, activities, and ministries - including a singles ministry often - which all give you a natural way to meet other people, some of whom will undoubtedly be Asian.
10. Nail Salon
Ever had a male manicure / pedicure - without the polish. Not only are most of the technicians Asian, but many of the clients and sometimes the salon owners will be Asian as well. On the west coast many of these salons will be owned by Vietnamese and / or have many Vietnamese workers. Sometimes better for making Asian friends, than finding dates.
11. Asian Events / Fairs / Night Markets
Does your city have an Asian Art or Film Festival or Night Market - great place to meet Asian women. Does your city have a Chinatown or Asian section with big Chinese New Year or Mid Autumn Festival events? Figure out what Asian holidays are celebrated in your area and try to attend some of the events. The night markets in particular are often a lot of fun and a nice way to meet Asian women.
12. West Coast or Hawaii Visit
If you don't already live on the west coast, plan a visit for a week and experience the difference of living in an area with a larger Asian population. Any of the larger west coast cities should work - San Diego, Irvine (Orange County), Los Angeles, San Jose, San Francisco, even Seattle or Vancouver. Also if you haven't been to Hawaii in a bit, Oahu and Honolulu/Waikiki feel like they are probably 80% Asian these days. Visitors from Japan far outnumber the visitors from the US these days in Hawaii. If you are not ready for the large Asian population in Hawaii, it can even be a little overwhelming for some guys.
13. Overseas Visit / Assignment
Nothing like going straight to the source. Is there a natural reason for you to visit Asia or can you attach yourself to a project at work which requires an Asian visit? Where to visit - for the first timer, Singapore, Tokyo, Seoul, or Hong Kong. For the more seasoned traveler, you can also try Kuala Lumpur, Shanghai, Beijing, Bangkok, Ho Chi Minh City, or Cebu.
14. General Online Dating
Try the free ones first, OKCupid.com or PlentyofFish.com and then maybe some of the paid ones like Match.com or eHamony.com. For me, I always meet more Asian women in person than online. My understanding is that the online Asian women really get hounded by the yellow fever fetish guys daily and hence they can be very weary sometimes. The same can happen in person as well, but likely with a little less intensity. My Asian friends tell me that most of the Asian women who use general online dating sites are either not that attractive or have difficult personalities. My Asian friends tell me that most of the attractive and fun personality Asian women in the US do not ever need to go on a general online dating site to meet men, so word to the wise about online dating.
15. Asian Online Dating
Websites like ChineseLoveLinks, KoreanCupid, and JapanCupid tend to specialize in Asian women who live in Asia, but who are open to relocating to the US or Europe. You have to be careful of the green card seekers and the gold diggers on these sites, but there are many genuine women on these sites if you can navigate the whole international relationship aspect. The real gems though on these websites are the women of Asian descent who already live in the US or Europe. They already understand western culture to some degree and likely already have good to fluent English skills. Also unlike the general online dating sites, these Asian specific web sites are more likely to have very attractive Asian women with great personalities, but perhaps weaker English skills.
16. Asian Matchmaker
Some large cities like San Francisco have matchmakers who specialize in Asian relationships. YourAsianConnection.com in San Francisco says that 70% of their matchmaking is matching American guys (including Black guys) to Asian women and 30% of their business is matching Asian men to Asian women. While I have never used their service, I hear good things about them including reasonable pricing and lots of speed dating events and other fun ice breaker events. I'm sure there are other Asian Matchmakers as well.
What other places / ways have you found effective for meeting Asian women?